Islam and the Quran Require Us to Honor, Not Abuse, Women

By Harris Zafar |

On Tuesday, I had the pleasure of appearing as a guest on “The O’Reilly Factor” to address accusations Ms. Wafa Sultan had levied against Islam on “The Factor” one day earlier. Ms. Sultan commented on MuammarQaddafi’s henchmen abducting and raping a Libyan woman. In her commentary, Ms. Sultan made the mistake of conflating the abuse of women in the Middle East that she has witnessed with the teachings of Islam.

Some incorrectly believe that the Koran sanctions (or even promotes) the ill-treatment of women. They allege that verse 35 of Chapter 4 instructs Muslims to beat their wives in order to maintain dominance over them.

As a happily married man, this verse is important to me – and my wife. The verse restricts, rather than sanctions, such behavior. It describes a process of curbing the urge to use physical force in the rare event of gross disobedience or rebellion – a vicious behavior such as adultery or stealing, not a simple disagreement. This verse presents a process of anger management, reformation and reconciliation, with the intention to heal the relationship at every step. Additionally, the Prophet Muhammad commanded not to do anything that would ever harm or leave a mark on a woman. This verse cannot be understood to justify beating, rape or any ill-treatment of women.

The Koran then continues in verse 36 to say that if the husband and wife cannot reconcile, then arbiters should seek to make peace between them on their behalf. The Koran guides towards reconciliation, not abuse.

Muhammad, the Prophet of Islam, was the living embodiment of the Koran. If the Koran advocates for the beating of one’s wife, then surely we should see examples of such behavior from the Prophet Muhammad — but we do not. He had disagreements with his wives, but he never raised his hand against them.

To the contrary, we read that he instructed his followers regarding their wives “do not beat them.” One must understand the Koran according to Prophet Muhammad’s understanding and practice. He told his followers that the best among men is the one who is best in his treatment to his wife and instructed that “husbands who beat their wives are not the best among men.”

Alleging that the Prophet Muhammad sanctioned – or even permitted – the beating or raping of women is patently false. If anything Chapter 24, verse 24 says “those who accuse chaste, unwary, believing women are cursed in this world and the Hereafter.” Women must be protected from such evil and despicable acts. It is recorded that the Prophet Muhammad ordered a man to be punished for rape based on the sole testimony of the rape victim.

Some incorrectly assert that Islam requires a rape victim to bring forth four witnesses to prove she has been raped. This is absolutely absurd and has no basis in the Koran.

In truth, the Koran instructs the complete opposite in Chapter 24, verse 5, when it instructs to punish those who falsely accuse chaste women of adultery but do not bring forth four witnesses to prove the adulterous act. Such accusers should be punished for slander and false testimony. Nowhere in the Koran will you find instructions for a victim of rape to present four witnesses to prove she was raped. There is no justice in that.

Far from abusing women, the Koran instructs us to honor them. The final verse of Chapter 66 of the Koran even instructs all believers to follow the example of the Mother Mary to achieve a high spiritual status, citing that despite all odds, she remained so chaste that she was bestowed the Holy Spirit.

In actuality, Islam instructs Muslims to protect women all over the world from this barbarity. Those who mistreat women in so-called “Islamic states” violate the teachings of the Holy Koran and the Prophet of Islam.

As moderate Muslims who believe in the Messiah, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad of Qadian, the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community continues to advocate for the equality, education, and empowerment of women. Contrary to the allegations of those who seem not to have read the Koran in its entirety, Islam does not allow beating or rape of its women at all. As followers of the true, documented teachings of Islam, Muslims must help stop the savage and vicious acts perpetrated against women around the world.

Harris Zafar is National Spokesperson of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community USA — the oldest Muslim organization in America.


6 thoughts on “Islam and the Quran Require Us to Honor, Not Abuse, Women

  1. I’m not sure that the similitude between women and diamonds would resonate with a modern educated woman. Ive heard women say that such similitudes equate them with owned objects, and fail to appreciate that a woman has a dynamic personality. I’m not disagreeing, I’m simply pointing out that these examples, which may have been effective in the Indian subcontinent in the past, may not convince a modern-day audience in the West.

    I also see a potential problem with reconciling the Qur’anic injunction which is popularly believe to permit beating one’s wife, with the Prophet (saw)’s own example and recommendation not to beat one’s wife. Our current interpretation of this issue raises difficult questions, for instance does beating “lightly” (not leaving marks) or even beating violently… constitute a meaningful and effective response if one’s wife commits a “vicious disobedience” such as adultery or stealing? Presumably if a woman cares so little for her husband’s feelings that she commits such acts, then she surely would laugh and pay no heed if her husband beat her lightly. I think we need to seriously consider such questions if we aspire inshaAllah to convince westerners about Islam, rather than simply convince each other about Islam.

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  3. Some very good points. Not sure if I agree with the term “moderate Muslims” as it connotes following Islam in moderation as opposed to in it’s full extent, in its pure and original form and it’s fundamental teachings which the Ahmadiyya community follows or at least tries to follow.

  4. If I have a diamond, what I will do. I will cover this diamond and will protect it from others. Will try my best that the outsiders do not see it as they may steal it etc. Why I would do it with Diamond because I know its worth and its value. I will only show Diamond to my close fellows.
    Similarly Allah has given this status to Women in Islam. They are well protected and covered because they are like Diamonds.
    I would request everyone to see in your daily life your matters to understand Islam as Islam is very logical religion.

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