World Peace is only possible through Restructuring of Homes

By Hadrat Mirza Tahir, Khalifatul Masih IV (rahmat Allah ‘alayhi)
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After Tasha’hud, Ta’awwuz and recitation of Surah Al-Fatihah Huzoor, may Allah be pleased with him, recited the following verse of the Holy Qur’an:
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“O ye people! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single soul and of its kind created its mate, and from them twain created many men and women; and fear Allah, in Whose name you appeal to one another, and fear Him particularly respecting ties of kinship. Verily, Allah watches over you.” (4:2)
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And then said:
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Quest for peace 
I have chosen the topic of ‘home’ for my address today. In these modern times people are in search of peace. Busy in their quest for peace, people are looking at every potential corner by which they feel they can hope to find peace. They keep running on all those avenues where they expect that advancing on these paths will grant them peace. But instead of attaining peace, with each passing day they are moving away from it. In their pursuit of peace they wander streets, cities and countries. But the peace that they could have found in their homes is gradually leaving their homes desolate. A house without peace is analogous to a nest without birds. People in modern society, most importantly, need to rebuild their homes no matter what religion they belong to, whether to East or West, North or South.
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Reasons for Destruction of Homes
When we picture in our minds the destruction of homes and visualize the breakup of families, we generally think of Western society and see certain evils in it that lead us to believe that Western culture is responsible for disintegration of homes. But the fact of the matter is that if we look at it with justice, the East is also responsible to a great extent. There are many social evils found in the East that do not exist in the West and are playing an extremely perilous role in breakup of homes.
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Before this discourse I examined the situation with fear of Allah in mind and I saw certain features that led me to believe that in some aspects Eastern culture is producing more dangerous circumstances. In short, the Western culture has also caused a disintegration of homes and continues to do so and as a result of this the society is suffering increasing grief. But the manner in which their homes are breaking up is not based on hatred. Instead it is caused by insensitivity, neglect, and personal selfishness. Personal selfishness plays the same role all over the world. But in our East the cultural and social problems are such that they not only break up relations but also create relations based on hatred instead of love. The word Shareeka (associate) that you have heard of among families has been inherited from our centuries old culture. You will not find any such concept in the West. Many social evils have led to the birth of the concept of Shareeka. Therefore, justice requires that prior to exhorting one should examine the whole situation and then analyze the ailment. Next, one should draw attention of each party to the faults discovered and then give advice with righteousness and in the name of Allah.
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Analysis of the Evils of Eastern Society
As far as the evils of Eastern society are concerned the apparent strength of our ties is practically becoming the cause of creating distance among these relations. In the West since people live in separate homes the concept of a big family living together does not exist; even if it did exist earlier it has been left far behind in history. But in most Eastern countries our families are more extensive, and their mutual relations appear to be very strong. In certain cases not only the daughter in law, son, mother in law, son in law live together in one house but uncles (father’s elder and younger brothers) and other relatives also live there. In certain areas they have a common kitchen, i.e. all the food is prepared at one place. In some big families even separate accounts are not maintained for their businesses. Not only in the non-Ahmadi society, but even among Ahmadis we have seen such evils where the father or the mother died and the property was not distributed, and it was assumed that one way to keep the family together was that no one should demand their share; no one should dare say that give me my share of my father’s or my mother’s property. The older brother or any other elder in the family had control of affairs. Resentment grew quietly in people’s hearts and their pain increased day by day. The feeling intensified that the person who had the control or the one whose name was on the property, was gaining more profit from it. The result is that even though sometimes the first generation would tolerate the situation but as the subsequent generation grows up, this apparent relationship of love turns into a sentiment of hatred. Even though the intention in the beginning was pious, but since the step taken was wrong, the good intention could not, and cannot, bear good fruit.
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This is an example. But in practice I have seen many such matters that reveal that bad traditions that are against the Islamic law lead to bad results and instead of generating love they spread hatred in the society. Thus only the society that you have a right to present to the rest of the world is the correct society. It is based on the teachings of Islam. That society has no color; it is neither of the East nor of the West. It is neither black nor white. It is a radiant society. Thus we should try to universalize a society, spread it all over the world, and make it the shared value for all people only to the extent that Islam is illuminating it, and its foundations are fixed in Islam. But in our society we find the erroneous notion that Eastern society is Islamic society. Certain aspects of
Eastern society are Islamic and are such where religion and culture have merged together and have acquired the same face. But numerous aspects are not only un-Islamic but are conflicting and opposed to religious values. They are antagonistic to religious values and have been inherited from an idol worshipping culture. Thus it is essential for Ahmadi ladies, whether they are from the East or West, that they make their mode of life in accordance with Islam.
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We are discussing Eastern society but it is very difficult to talk about the whole of it. But now when I talk about Eastern society I will mean those ladies who were born and brought up in Eastern countries. From a certain angle their society is Eastern but it is not essential that from every aspect it is Islamic as well. Therefore if they are going to try to be teachers of the world, and want to play an important role in fulfilling the intense need of the human race that it needs a home today, then they should make a good home and present its examples.
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The need for a Model Islamic Society
You must have seen that extremely beautiful buildings are being built in the world these days because of the effect of modern engineering. Some buildings are made as models so that similar homes may be built on a large scale. Where is that model? This is the question that has been worrying me. What is the example that we can present to the entire human race as an ‘Islamic Society’? If Ahmadi ladies do not offer that model then they will be deprived of the opportunity of fulfilling an important demand of this time. They will fail to join and interlink the entire human race in one nation. Therefore you should give great importance to the need that I am placing before you today. Since this is a vast topic therefore I will try, to the best of my ability, to present it to you in points.
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Some Basic Evils of Eastern Society
Our society (here by ‘our’ I do not mean ‘mine’ because I am a flag bearer of Islamic society and I represent only that. But since I belong to the East, the word ‘our’ comes to my tongue as a habit – so the Eastern society) has many deep-rooted evils that have impacted the daily lives of Ahmadis as well.
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1. Considering financial gains in arranging marriages
We have not been able to reform our ladies to the extent that while arranging marriages they should focus on good girls and good boys instead of focusing on the wealth of a good girl or a good boy. We have generally inherited this habit from Eastern society and its foundations are established and fixed in idolatrous cultures. The Hindu society had many customs whereby they would attain financial gains also at the time of arranging marriages. Hence the legacy of this misfortune is still penetrating in our country Pakistan. The Muslims living in India have also inherited a portion from this misery. The Hindu nation is expressing disgust towards it and is developing new schemes that such dangerous tendencies should be uprooted. If needed, laws should be passed so as to eradicate these evil practices. But here such incidents take place on a daily basis where the mother of a boy thinks that since her son is educated and earning she should look for a daughter in law. Instead of looking at the morals of the daughter in law she looks at her home. She looks at the kind of sofa sets that are in their homes. Are material comforts present or not? Do they have a car or not? If they have a car will they give their daughter a car in dowry or not? They also cast a glance at the rest of the property. It seems as if instead of a mother looking for a daughter in law an Income Tax Inspector has gone out to appraise the property. This produces horrible consequences. Even if such marriages take place, provisions for their destruction have been made during their creation. Such marriages are built on a branch that will not survive and will definitely be cut down. Jewelry is also kept under focus. They are wondering to what extent the daughter in law will borrow, or will be wearing, jewelry when she comes to their house. I have added the word ‘borrow’ myself; as far as their expectations are concerned they think that even if the girl’s family has to sell all their property they should send their daughter to their house with a great deal of jewelry. And the reality is that mothers of those girls who are to be sent as daughters in law sometimes give their daughters borrowed jewelry and try to secretly get the jewelry back the next day so that they can return it to the person who entrusted it to them. Thus the conflicts that take place afterwards reveal such matters. What an absurd thing it is, but it comes forward as a serious issue that they were deceived. The Jhoomar (a piece of jewelry worn on the head) that the daughter in law was wearing was borrowed, the earring given to her was borrowed or that she does not accept that it was borrowed. She says that it was given to her but then they took it back. So brutal is this society that instead of growing love, it breeds hatred. Mothers who adopt such unkind ways sow thorns in the path to their sons’ happiness, and poison the society forever. Such matters do not come to an end but go on progressing, leading to complaint upon complaint and extremely mean talk!!
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2. Eyeing the income of the daughter in law 
Then there are those mothers who may not care about these things but lay great emphasis on the daughter (in law)’s education. An evil intention is hidden behind this. Their intention is that a daughter whose education can become a source of income for her should come to their home, so that she may earn an income alongside her husband and hand over her earnings to them. Such an intention cannot stay hidden for long. Once marriage takes place the girls are forced to find jobs, work hard, and then hand over their income to them. These are un-Islamic practices. Such practices do not exist in the West. If homes are breaking up in the West it is not due to hatred.
Their homes disintegrate due to rising inclination towards material pleasures. Individualism is gaining hold and becoming more evident than before. This individuality on the path to material pleasures is getting in the way of building relationships. If a man in the West gets married, he does not like that his wife’s mother or if a woman gets married she does not like that the husband’s mother, should be a burden on their home. This restricts their freedom and pleasure. Thus this concept of freedom first breaks up homes and converts them into mere husband and wife; ties to the rest of the family are reduced to the extent of worldly custom or some event. Just as you would merely invite friends to these events, other members of the family also participate in a similar fashion. But since there are no expectations there are no disappointments. Gradually this selfish society has evolved into the kind of society where elderly mothers, who are in need of help, are spending the remaining days of their lives all alone, waiting for death. There is no one to look after the old father. Therefore, the whole society attempts to fulfill its collective obligation. Old people’s homes are constructed. Effort is made to provide other means for taking care of them, to the point where this group places such burden on the society that other needs cannot be met. This produces a society that suffers from lack of peace, and restlessness. This situation keeps worsening and eventually the whole society becomes restive. You will see that this is the shape of things in England. But remember these evils do not breed hatred.
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3. Ostentation
Our, or I should say Eastern, society has evils that produce hatred. This is what Shareeka is. Such evils multiply because of many other bad habits, for example, ostentation. On the occasion of marriages people have created this pointless issue of honor, and they worry a great deal about their false sense of honor. Our ladies are paranoid that if they do not show off at the time of weddings they would be disgraced in front of people. Look, you were disgraced when you lost respect in front of Allah. What respect is there left to lose? A believer is disgraced as soon as he transgresses from the guidelines laid down by Allah and the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and turns his back to the teachings of Islam. Nothing else is left. Then why worry about what’s left and what’s gone? The fact of the matter is that ostentation has produced dangerous consequences in our society.
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4. Taunting the daughter in law
These events are the beginning, but after this beginning a conscious effort is made to keep alive their ill effects forever. If there was a slip-up at the time of sending off their daughter, if they failed to show off, or the food ran short, or even if there was too much salt in the food, at any minor fault the Shareeka raises its head immediately and says that this particular thing happened at that time.
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Then they never put it behind them. That poor lonesome girl, who was sent by someone to live in someone else’s house, feels that she has come to the house of her enemies. She is taunted at every occasion. If ever she cooks and it turns out bad, it is said, “Yes!! We know whose daughter you are. Haven’t you come from the place where this particular incidence happened on the occasion of your wedding? Our guests made gestures of dismay. No one ate a morsel. It was not even edible.” Such exaggeration, and then they make the poor girl’s life difficult with their taunts.
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5. Mother in law’s jealousy towards her daughter in law
Then these issues grow deeper in the form of vices in the society when the mother in law gets jealous of the daughter in law. This cannot be seen in Western society but it is widespread in Eastern society. When the son shows affection to his wife who was brought to his home by his mother, apparently with great desire and longing, then the mother from thereon is bent on ruining her. She does not let an opportunity pass whereby she can destroy the home of this poor girl. Thus if the son pays attention to his wife the mother in law gets angry and believes that the only way to retain control of her son is by concentrating on finding faults in her daughter in law and then mentioning these to her son. If these faults are not there then she can create a few on her own. This is not a difficult task. Some people can make up stories very easily. If this newly wed has came from a poor home and is kind to her brothers then all hell breaks lose. Even though in most situations such women are careful and if they help their brothers they do so with their own income. But these mothers in law that I am talking about, I hope to God that there are no such mothers in law among you, cannot even tolerate that an educated girl who has not placed the entire burden on
her husband and earns herself, should spend some on her home and give some to her poor brothers and sisters. This is beyond their endurance. They start poisoning the ears of the husbands and think that in this way they have won their son over and he belongs to them now. It does not matter if he belongs to them or not, for he will not belong to himself. A son whose home is ruined will have a distasteful life.
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Ties of Kinship need to be protected
In this Eastern society where families are apparently large and relationships appear strong, an innate system exists that is severing ties and teaching hatred. This is why the Holy Qur’an repeatedly draws out attention towards ties of kinship. The verse that I recited today is the one that
Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, recited on the occasion of every marriage. Following in the tradition of the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, out of the three verses that are read at the time of marriage of every Muslim, this verse that I just recited is the first. Allah says:
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O ye people! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single soul.
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‘Created you from a single soul’ has several meanings. One connotation related to this occasion is that none of you has any superiority over another. This carries the meaning of all uniting in one soul. Therefore a society that was created from one soul should stay together as one soul. A society that gets divided and converts into several souls forgets its origin. A split is created in it. Allah says, “We have granted you abundance as well; We have created men in abundance and women in abundance. But this was not done so that you may assume separation and tear apart in matters of the hearts. Instead it was done so that you may create these ties again and once more strive to become one.” This message has been given at the end of this verse in this form, “And fear Allah, in Whose name you appeal to one another, and fear Him particularly respecting ties of kinship.” Implying We have spread you all over the world and We created many lives form one life, but not so ties of kinship should break but so that relationships may be established and established with respect.
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Allah says, ‘remember that the God to whom you beg to have your desires fulfilled teaches you that you should guard your ties of kinship and take care of them.’ These two subjects have been tied together in such a way that if a woman or a man, whichever it may be, do not honor the ties of kinship and instead of being kind to their relatives sever relations with them, then the message for them is that their prayers will not be accepted. It is very important to understand this point because I receive numerous letters with requests for prayers and they also include letters stating that they don’t know why their prayers are not accepted. There can be several reasons why prayers may not be accepted, but one reason that is explained here is that if instead of strengthening your family ties, you behave in such a way that these relationships are severed then remember that you will sever your relationship with Allah. The one to whom you beg to get your desires fulfilled will not grant you your wishes.
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This is not my explanation but it is the explanation given by the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. At one time he stated, as if Allah had informed him, that the attribute ‘Rahman’ (merciful) of Allah emanates from the same element that the name ‘Reham’ for the organ of a mother in which a child is born, comes from. Reham is the name given to the uterus of a mother and it is also the basis of the attribute Rahman of Allah. Allah says if you sever the ties of kinship (Rehme relations) you will be severed from God’s mercy. One is deeply related to the other. Thus he who is cut off from (Allah’s) Rahmaniyyat (mercy) has nowhere else to go. A society
cut off from Rahmaniyyat also implies that this society cannot foster love and so hatred will sprout.
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A person cut off from mercy is cut off from Rahamaniyyat. One meaning of this is the one that I have just explained that despite your prayers, Allah will not treat you kindly. The other is that such a society is devoid of divine favor and breeds hatred.
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Present to the World a Society Based only on the Holy Qur’an and Sunnah
We can see many major vices in the Western society and it is essential to remove them as well as provide safeguards against them. But as majority of the Ahmadi ladies at present belong to Eastern society I want to bring their attention to this matter. If you look at Western society only with a critical view and then invite them towards your own society, in return they too will look at your society with criticism. They will have the right to say that they reject it, because this society is not based on righteousness. This will create racialism leading to geographical and national divisions and create hatred that will divide the nations. This is not just related to the West but to the East as
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When I went on a tour of Africa, at many places some African ladies complained to me against some Pakistani ladies that they have a certain way of life and try to show us that it is the Islamic way of life and that they are its representatives and supporters. Please inform us if it is the Islamic way of life or not, and if it is not, was Ahmadiyyat instituted to impose and enforce Pakistanism on the rest of the world? At some places there were misunderstandings. In some cases their complaints were legitimate. When I explained the matter to them clearly they understood it very well. I made it unmistakably evident to them that Pakistanism and Ahmadiyyat are not two names
of the same thing. Ahmadiyyat is something different. Ahmadiyyat is Islam. Every aspect of Ahmadiyyat should be based on the Holy Qur’an and Sunnah. Thus an act that is based on the Holy Qur’an and is based on Sunnah is Ahmadiyyat. A lady who reflects this aspect has a right that as a representative of Islam she should instruct you to assume that habit or take up a certain custom of mode of living. She does not have a right to present things other than this before you and claim that as a representative of Islam she has come to teach these ways to you.
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Individualism – Biggest Evil of the West
Among the problems of Western world a huge evil is the same individualism. The society has become selfish. Worldly pleasures and modern appliances that are helpers in producing these pleasures are playing an extremely horrifying role in further reinforcing selfishness. Day by day society is disintegrating because everyone wants to have the maximum benefit from the means of pleasure created as a result of modern advances and no relation is an obstacle in this pursuit. No kinship is a hurdle. Whatever income a son earns he keeps to himself. Rarely would he give a portion of it to his poor sister or to his poor mother or spend it on his poor brother. Thus from this angle this society is becoming a society of individualism, because the needs of every individual are not being fulfilled. The subject of unfulfilled needs is not related to poverty. It is related to contentment, that is, in many cases it is related to contentment. The richer the Western society is becoming the more its desires are blazing. The cry of ‘Are there any more?’ (50:31) is rising.
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People get accustomed to the means of pleasure being provided to them. It becomes their basic right. Then the desire for still more arises: western television, radio, and other means of communication present such a picture of a fictitious paradise in front of them that it appears to be real from afar and everyone tries to run towards it. But in reality it is not paradise. This paradise islike seawater that further inflames thirst instead of quenching it.
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Real Paradise lies in making Ties of Kinship Strong
Real paradise lies in the making of a home. Real paradise lies in making Rehme relations strong. The Holy Qur’an sheds light on this topic in the verse that I have put before you. With remarkable sagacity, and looking at it with utmost wisdom, the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, chose this verse to be recited on the occasion of marriage. This is because of both his discernment and intimate knowledge of God but I believe that, even though no such tradition has come to my knowledge that the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, did so as a result of clear revelation from God Almighty, but since it was his rule that he did not take any step without revelation, therefore I have complete faith and conviction that in addition to sagacity it was related to revelation as well. Incidentally, here you can say if wisdom was involved how could it be a revelation or if it was a revelation how could it be a result of his wisdom?
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The Holy Qur’an has itself provided the answer to this question. The Holy Qur’an presents the example of the light of Hazrat Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, or the light of Allah in his form, as if he was clear oil that was ready to ignite on its own. It contained such pure characteristics that even if there had not been a revelation from Allah, it still would have provided the means for illuminating the world. The light of Allah’s revelation descended upon it and Hazrat Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, became ‘light upon light’ (nooron ala noor). Thus revelation is deeply related to wisdom as well. This is the reason why different prophets have disparity in the status of their revelation. There is disparity in clarity and light, otherwise it is the same God who sent revelation to every prophet. Thus the resplendent teachings that were granted to Hazrat Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, were a result of the intervention of his God given wisdom, which was transformed into nooron ala noor (light upon light) by the light of revelation descending upon it.
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Horrible Effect of Destruction of Homes in Western Society
The selection of this verse for the occasion of marriage bears extraordinary importance and it plays a basic role in the making of homes. Allah reminds us that we were created from one soul. Even though we are increasing in numbers and are spreading, we should always strive to return to being one soul. We can achieve this only by strengthening the ties at home and fortifying Rehme relations. This comprises an enormously deep secret of wisdom that it is impossible to build nations or to create national unanimity unless homes are constructed with accord therein. The nation in which homes are divided cannot stay together. National interests are dispersed. A nation whose homes are lacking peace will always have streets that are devoid thereof. This is a law that cannot be changed by any worldly power. If you analyze the crimes of those countries where dangerous crimes, that are becoming more horrendous with each passing day, are breeding despite their economic and educational progress, you will see that the ultimate reason behind the rise in these crimes is breakup of homes.
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These days in England there is talk of an extremely painful crime. Every report and all
announcements on radio and television are saying that some wicked people kidnapped innocent children to make pornographic films. Almost forty children were killed during filming of the kind of horrible films that they wanted to make. They must have committed all sorts of atrocities against these children, and there was no one who could have paid heed to their screams and to their cries. This is such a painful incident that it makes the entire nation hang its head low in shame. In fact this causes all mankind to hang its head low in shame. But look at this. The ultimate reason behind this is that because of individualism homes are falling apart and desire for pleasure has made the nation mad. Since there is no peace and interest left in homes therefore young men, growing up in such homes, take to the streets not in search of peace but in search of pleasure; and they ruin other people’s peace for the sake of their own enjoyment. The ultimate reason behind drug addiction, pornography, or other such vices is the same.
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Thus even though hatred did not play a role in disintegration of homes but the breakup of homes led to hatred and, in practice, the ultimate end is hatred. As a result of the breakup of homes lack of contentment, mistrust, and hatred becomes rampant in the society, and since the pursuit of pleasure takes place outside in the streets therefore there is absolutely no consideration that some one else will be harmed or that it will cause grief to someone. While mugging to get a little money, even hands are sometimes cut off.
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In 1978 when I went to America I took my wife and two daughters to see Harlem. People tried to frighten me from going there. They said you are going there; it is a very dangerous place. On top of that your wife and daughters would be wearing the veil. We are not sure if you will come back alive. I said it was not so. I did not understand what could happen in broad daylight. Then they told me that a similar Eastern lady was walking with a thick gold bangle on her hand, and since there was not enough time to scramble for it, so a man cut off her wrist with a sharp knife and when the bracelet fell to the ground he ran off with it. They said this is the situation here. This is not just the situation over there, but is becoming the same everywhere and cruelty is on the rise. The reason is that there is no peace in the homes. If a society has love and affection in its homes and the relations between husband and wife or a man and a women are not the only sources of pleasure, but the ties between brother and sister, and mother and son, and father and son, and other relatives that are included in this verse are strengthened (Rehme relations include all the ties of kinship of husband as well as wife) then a vast family is created. If we build our homes from this standpoint one would find such peace there that many fortunate children who grow up in such homes have no desire of quickly leaving after returning from school or work, or head towards pubs or to mingle in bad gatherings that have been made nowadays to provide temporary pleasures so that one may go and waste one’s time there. This is the society that later on, in reality, promotes drinking and gambling and all kinds of vices breed there and, as a consequence, homes are destroyed.
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Rebuilding Homes is only possible through the Teachings of Hazrat
Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him 
Thus homes are falling apart in the West as well as East. Our lord and master Muhammad Mustafa, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, is the sole builder of homes. It is only his teachings that can reform the East and the West. It is impossible to guarantee peace in today’s world unless and until we can guarantee peace, contentment, and internal serenity in our homes.
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Thus, think about rebuilding your homes. And as I have explained before, since most of the Ahmadi ladies among you belong to Eastern society, you have to eliminate your shortcomings and make your homes exemplary. As far as those ladies are concerned who come from the West and have converted to Ahmadiyyat, as far as I have observed, are upholding the spirit of Purdah due to Grace of Allah even though there are many impediments here and it is difficult for them to change their way of living and to wear clothes that are considered foolish in their society. They pull themselves together, are careful and pay attention to protect themselves and they are indeed headed away from the un-Islamic society towards the Islamic society. It is essential that you take more steps towards them than they do. That is, those ladies who have been raised in Eastern society will have to purify themselves.
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They have to break free from the bad habits of East and eradicate them. They have to reinstate the pure society of Islam, because in my eyes Ahmadi ladies from the East have so far not been able to create a purely Islamic society. We have to eradicate all those bad traditions that we inherited from certain un-Islamic societies. We need to create a pristine and pious environment. We have to fulfill our obligations to one another. We need to form relationships with each other and strengthen these ties instead of hurting them with cheap and disgraceful ways. Those ladies who enjoy
taunting and deriding others and create an image of superiority by playing a negative role and think that by ridiculing someone they have elevated themselves, are involved in a dirty pleasure. This pleasure can never bring them peace. Their suffering and difficulties will definitely increase with each passing day. Along with this, they are also increasing pain and suffering of others. They should try doing some noble deeds. They should try to serve someone. They should also try winning the heart of their daughter in law with love. Similarly the daughter in law should not think that she has come to some one else’s home, and continue talking about her own house and be wrapped up in the memories of her parents. Instead she should, in accordance with Qur’anic teachings where we are taught to respect Rehme relations from both sides, try to live as their daughter and should care for them just as she would care for her own parents and serve them.Then this kindness from both sides can turn the society into paradise.
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These are small issues but they can create such enormous negative repercussions, as a result of which the whole society has to undergo trouble and torment. Homes fall apart, marriages fail, and then sometimes people have to run to tribunals. Sometimes they have to go back and forth to courts. But at each time, at every place, and at every occasion you will see that the root of the problem is a transgression from Islamic teachings.
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An Important Message
Thus if you want to bring peace to the world then it is incumbent upon Muslim ladies, whether they are living in the East or in the West, that they should make their homes models of true Islam so that when people coming from the outside look at them they should know what they have gained. They should present pure examples in the entire world as a result of which mankind should once again attain its lost paradise of home.
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I believe that the paradise that has been mentioned in the Holy Qur’an in the initial history of Adam bears a deep relation with paradise in the home. Therefore the punishments that the Bible has suggested, even though we do not find mention of them in the Holy Qur’an, are definitely related to homes. Hence I believe that the extremely important message for you today is that:
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You should try to rebuild your homes. Make them a symbol of paradise. Develop humility and love in your relationships. Refrain from anything that would cause breakup of family ties and create hatred. Today homes are what the world needs the most. Keep this in mind. And if Ahmadis do not provide this home to the world then no society in the world can offer a home to mankind.
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May Allah enable us to do so. Ameen.
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Source: Daughters of Eve and a Society Reminiscent of Paradise (International Jalsa Salana, 28th July 1990)
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3 thoughts on “World Peace is only possible through Restructuring of Homes

  1. AA

    JazakAllah for this. It is definitely something men should read, it will give you all an insight into what women go through. You don’t just marry the person, you marry the family and sometimes it can be difficult to fulfil your duties as a woman. However, everyone has a duty towards mankind – Haqooqul Ibad. It’s so easy to forget that in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

    I have found that when I need to hear some really good advice on a topic I search for a that topic at http://www.alislam.org/friday-sermon/ and listen/read sermons which relate to the topic. There are sermons archived from1899 onwards, I have found it useful personally so I thought I would share hat with everyone.
    Before someone takes this out of context, I am not suggesting this is a substitute for prayers.
    Wasalaam

  2. It is an amazing read. I don’t usually include posts this long as very few people read them, but felt compelled to. It is a must read for all ladies and men. Please do let other Lajna know about it.

  3. AA

    Ameen!
    Just amazing! Khalifah Rabay (ra) always amazes me I just don’t have any words. Every woman can relate to what he has said, a message that was spoken over 20years ago still is relevant in this day and age.
    May Allah enable us to fulfil these duties and to better ourselves InshaAllah.
    Wasalaam

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