Lately, there have been an increasing number of posts across the internet about the state of marriage within the Ahmadiyya Muslim community. Firstly, of what concern anybody’s marriage is to anyone except for the parties directly involved is beyond me! Seriously, do these posters have nothing better to write about than marriage within the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community? Secondly, do they have so little regard for Almighty Allah and His Prophet (sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) that they repeatedly ignore that ”ghibah” (back-biting) and ”namimah” (malicious gossip) are sins and in many cases major sins? Take note, as I have already explained, the acts of ”ghibah” or ”namimah” involve telling a true fact about someone else. So it simply does not cut mustard to say: ”But what I said about that person was the truth, I didn’t lie – honest…” If you lie then you have committed slander – a completely separate act and sin.
Also, posters must be careful when they level accusations against others as they sometimes unwittingly (maybe even negligently) leave others open to criticism. A simple example would be to infer that if someone is divorced then he or she must be morally deficient or of suspect character. Once a standard is created it then has to be applied universally. No less than Hadrat Abu Bakr al-Siddiq (radi Allahu ‘anhu) and one of his wives (the mother of the amazing Hadrat Asma’ (radi Allahu ‘anha)) divorced. Therefore, according to the – highly suspect – standard here created, there must have been some sort of problem or shortcoming in Hadrat Abu Bakr (radi Allahu ‘anhu) – may Almighty Allah protect us from individuals who negligently ignore Him and His Beloved (sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).
I am not sure about the reader’s perception, but the more and more that I write on this blog, the more concerned I become about the state of some of our Muslim brothers and sisters (note that I said some and not all – that is called ”not generalising”). Really, why can people not simply step aside and live their lives however they want to without feeling the compulsion to vilify and attack others? It is my sincere prayer that this will be the eventuality and there will no longer be a need or purpose for this kind of blog. Imagine that – I could be spending this time reading or even start a new blog wherein peaceful and like minded individuals could share in their love for Almighty Allah and His Prophet (sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).
Nevertheless, the architects of misinformation are still hard at it and so the balancing of information must go on. The next big problem they have is that Ahmadi Muslim women are asked not to marry non-Ahmadi Muslim men. The question I would ask them in return is this: ‘’Tell me first about your own views on the subject before you start lecturing or vilifying Ahmadi Muslims?’’ I’ll help you out with this one. You see, some non-Ahmadi Muslims have had the desire to marry Ahmadi Muslims and sought the guidance of their ‘Ulama’ on this issue. For example, on the popular Fatwa site ‘’Islam-qa’’, the following question was asked:
Question: ‘’I understand that its alright for a Muslim male to marry a woman from the people of the book. But how about if a Muslim male wants to marry a Qadiani girl, who’s of a good character and personality?’’
Fatwa: ‘’ Praise be to Allaah. Given that the Qadiani school of thought is a form of major Kufr (disbelief) which puts them beyond the pale of Islam [i.e., Qadianis are not Muslims – see Question 4060], it is not permissible to marry this woman, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“They are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them” [al-Mumtahinah 60:10]
And Allaah knows best.’’
Perhaps you are thinking that this kind of view is a one off? On the popular South African Fatwa site ”askimam”, however, the following similar questions and fatwas are found:
Question: ‘’1. Can a Sunni woman marry an Ahmadiya (Qadiyani) man?
2. What if a Sunni woman has married an Ahmadiya (Qadiyani) man. What is the ruling and what she has to do to get back to the fold of Islam?
Please advice on this two questions as I would like to help a Sunni woman to correct and be in the right path, the path of Allah subhan-O-Taala.’’
Fatwa: ‘’Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh. According to Shariah, it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a man from the Ahmadi sect. She should try and get out of the marriage immediately and severe relationship with this man. Although she has entered into a marriage with a non Muslim, she has not lost her Imaan. She should make Tawbah and regret over her wrongdoing and resolve to follow the Laws of Allah and the Sunnah of Muhammed (Sallalaahu Alayhi Wasallam). And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best. Wassalāmu ῾alaykum’’
And on the same website the opposite question is also answered:
Question: ‘’Is it permissible for a sunni man to marry a ahmadi woman still if she is unwilling to be a sunni.’’
Fatwa: ‘’Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. 1) Ahmadi’s (commonly known as Qadiyani’s) follow Ahmed Qadiyani who had strange believes which render him as out of the fold of Islam. Some of his believes are:
1) He claimed prophet hood.
2) He claimed to receive wahy.
3) He claimed that the previous divine scriptures predicted of his prophet hood.
4) He claimed having a miracle greater then that of Nabi Nooh(alayhi salam).
5) He use be mock and belittle previous Anbiya(alayhimus salam).
6) He use to swear at Nabi Isa م(alayhi salam).
7) He claimed Sayyidatuna Aisha رضى الله عنها committed adultery.
These are just some of their believes which render him and his follows out of the fold of Islam. Therefore, it is not permissible to marry an Ahmedi.’’
The last Fatwa is filled with so much misinformation it deserves its own independent post (I’ll leave that for another time, In Shaa’ Allah). And the last of our examples, but certainly not least, is located on the website ‘’Sunni Path.’’ For those unaware of this website, it is very well respected and famed as one of the most authentic, moderate and middle of the road non-Ahmadi websites out there. I am sure they would adopt a rather more tactful approach, wouldn’t you think? Lets take a look at the question and fatwa on their site:
Question: ‘’I am a sunni Muslim, the problem is that I like a ahamdi boy, […] he likes me and wants to marry me, I don’t know what to do. I have done isthakhara namaz so many times but had no dreams regarding this. I would also like to know why they are considered non-Muslims.’’
Fatwa: ‘’As-Salamu `alaykum: Ahmadis are considered non-Muslim and it is required that this boy first declare his Islamic belief before Sunni witnesses and abandon Ahmadi beliefs, after which the marriage can proceed. Otherwise, no. This should appear clearly to you through istikhara.
Ahmadis are considered non-believers because they reject one of the obligatory articles of the Religion of Islam (daruriyyat), namely, the fact that the Prophet Muhammad is the last Prophet and that there is no new Prophet after him whatsoever, upon him blessings and peace, which constitutes belying the Qur’an (takdhib al-Qur’an) according to the Consensus of the Muslim Umma.
They also profess to follow a person from Qadyan as their leader who was declared an apostate (murtadd).
So to love an Ahmadi and be loved by him is like saying: You question the truthfulness of my Lord; and/or you corrupt the Book of my Lord away from its meaning; and/or you divest my Prophet of his attribute; but I love you and you love me…..??
And if this answer was not enough – wait for it, the non-Ahmadi readers will probably enjoy this – the Shaykh ends with:
‘’Ya Salaam. May Allah protect you and have mercy on your soul.’’
You know what though? Fair enough, they have a right to write and advise whatever they feel fits within their understanding of the texts. I just think that before anyone should dare to lecture Ahmadis about marriage, they should first look inwardly.
After reading the above, please view the following very short video and it should become clear who is, and who is NOT, questionable (or extreme) in this matter:
On a final note, some posters openly question the intentions and reasons behind the bay’aat of some individuals who convert to Islam Ahmadiyya. The first reply is a clear one, that is: ”fear Almighty Allah and leave the reading of intentions to the Creator – do not associate your meagre powers of intuition with the Omnipotent powers of Almighty Allah lest you invite His Wrath upon yourselves.” The second reply is that this really is an issue too far for me and does not dignify a direct answer – a blogger has to draw a line in the sand somewhere! I will, however, leave you with an enlightening answer delivered by my beloved Hadrat Khalifat al-Masih IV (rahmat Allah ‘alayh):
And Almighty Allah knows best.